'07/8/1 (Wed.) Breaking Up (Host:Claire)

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Claire3922
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'07/8/1 (Wed.) Breaking Up (Host:Claire)

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Hi! Dear YoYo members, YOYO’s meeting on Aug. 1, 2007

This is Claire Chuang. The topic we are going to discuss is “breaking up”, especially “when a romantic relationship has broken up”. How will people deal with this kind of emotional impact and how do they live a better life after break-up? A relationship breakup can be a very painful experience. Mourning the loss of the relationship for a time is perfectly natural. It is a time to come to terms with your loss so that you can move on to a brighter day. Part of that brighter day will probably involve dating again.

Breakups can occur for numerous reasons such as conflicts in personality, lifestyle changes, or attraction to a different partner. Breaking up with someone is also commonly referred to as "dumping". However, due to the negative connotations of 'dumping', many who have consensually ended a relationship choose not to describe it so. Furthermore, relationships that are ended through "dumping" usually also end the friendship; however relationships ended by mutual agreement more often become friendships.

After a breakup, how do you pick up your broken heart, how do you heal the wound and start dating again? This is a kind of EQ issue that people have to learn how to deal with.

Here is the information that you may be interested in to learn from the web site: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Relationship break up

Session I Questions
1. What’ are the reasons that cause a couple to break up? If you find the person not the right one, will you make up your mind soon to leave your lover? What is the good way to say good-bye to reduce the hurting feeling (of being dumped) to a minimum?
2. What place is the best place to say good-bye? Do you think both of you still could be good friends after breaking up? Why?
3. How do you live a better life after the break-up? You can share your or your friend’s experience with everyone else.

*********** “break up” for ten minutes *********

Session II Questions
Drama time: Create a short play for about five minutes long based on the following plots:
1) A happy ending for a break-up.
2) Baby come back! -- How do you win her (his) love back?

Agenda

6:45 or earlier The host (and guests) arriving at the meeting place
6:45 ~ 7:00 Greetings and free talk among members and guests /recording individual orders/getting newcomers’ information
7:00 sharp Beginning of the meeting
7:00 ~ 7:10 Opening remarks/ newcomers self-introduction of /grouping

(Session I)
7:10 ~ 7:40 First discussion session (7:35 Reminding each group of making a review for the speaker)
7:40 ~ 7:50 First summarization

(Intermission)
7:50 ~ 8:00 Regrouping and taking a break

(Session II)
8:10 ~ 8:40 Second discussion session (8:35 Reminding each group of making a review for the speaker)
8:40 ~ 8:50 Second summarization
8:50 ~ 9:00 Concluding remarks/feedback from newcomers/
announcements

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Wayne
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文章 Wayne »

Perhaps one of the most popular "break-up" songs is this one:
Breaking Up Is Hard To Do by Neil Sedaka


Breaking Up Is Hard To Do -- Neil Sedaka
(N.Sedaka/H.Greenfield)

Don't take your love away from me
Don't you leave my heart in misery
If you go then I'll be blue
'Cause breaking up his hard to do

Remember when you held me tight
And you kissed me all through the night
Think of all that we've been through
Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

They say that breaking up is hard to do
Now I know, I know that it's true
Don't say that this is the end
Instead of breaking up I wish that we were making up again

I beg of you, don't say goodbye
Can't we give our love another try
Come on baby, let's start a new
'Cause breaking up is hard to do


The Greg Kihn band had a Top 40 song, their first one, in 1981 called "The Breakup Song (They Don't Write 'Em)". A cover of this song by SexPanther can be accessed at
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For the theme of Session II, Player had a song called Baby Come Back which peaked on the Billboard Hot 100 Chart for three consecutive weeks.
To listen to the song, click

The lyrics:
Baby Come Back -- Player

Spending all my nights all my money going out on the town
Doing anything just to get you off of my mind
But when the morning comes I'm right back where I started again
Trying to forget you is just a waste of time

Baby come back any kind of fool could see
There was something in everything about you
Baby come back you can blame it all on me
I was wrong and I just can't live without you

All day long wearing a mask of false bravado
Trying to keep up the smile that hides a tear
But as the sun goes down I get that empty feeling again
How I wish to God that you were here

Baby come back any kind of fool could see
There was something in everything about you
Baby come back, you can blame it all on me
I was wrong and I just can't live without you

Now that I put it all together
Give me the chance to make you see
Have you used up all the love in your heart
Nothing left for me ain't there nothing left for me

Baby come back any kind of fool could see
There was something in everything about you
Baby come back listen you can blame it all on me
I was wrong and I just can't live without you

I was wrong and I just can't live

Baby come back any kind of fool could see
There was something in everything about you
Baby come back you can blame it all on me
Knowledge is power -- when shared.
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文章 Wayne »

Now a break-up movie:

同床異夢(The Break-Up)
年份:2006
類型:喜劇、劇情、愛情.
片長:1時53分.
導演:【愛情趴趴走】派頓瑞德(Peyton Reed).
演員:【遇上波莉】珍妮佛安妮斯頓(Jennifer Aniston)、【婚禮終結者】文斯范(Vince Vaughn).
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0452594/
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Extra readings on break-up:

1. Surviving Relationship Break-up (Do's and don'ts of relationship break-up)
breakup
http://72.14.235.104/search?q=cache:aJx ... =firefox-a

2. Make a clean break
http://www.need2know.co.uk/relationship ... tml/id=820

3. There lots of articles to read about breaking up -- in different topics.
http://www.lovingyou.com/content/advice/breakup/
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Break-up quotes:
1. Ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation. -- Kahlil Gibran (American artist, poet and writer) (紀伯倫)
2. I was never one to patiently pick up broken fragments and glue them together again and tell myself that the mended whole was as good as new. What is broken is broken -- and I'd rather remember it as it was at its best than mend it and see the broken places as long as I lived. -- Margaret Mitchell (author of Gone with Wind) (瑪格利特.米契爾-小說《飄》的作者)
3. It takes a couple seconds to say hello, but forever to say goodbye. -- Anonymous (佚名)
4. Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, and ends with a teardrop. -- Anonymous (佚名)
5. The heart was made to be broken. -- Oscar Wilde (王爾德)
6. The hottest love has the coldest end. -- Socrates (ancient Greek philosopher) (蘇格拉底)
7. Trying to forget someone you love is like trying to remember someone you never knew. -- Anonymous (佚名)
Knowledge is power -- when shared.
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文章 Claire3922 »

Wu... I think I got my husband's (Wayne's) full support.
Thank you Wayne! Thanks for warming up for this topic.
I have learned some things from Wayne's messages, and how about you?
Please come to the meeting and you can learn much more form
other members. :idea:


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The more you participated, the more you learned. :D

Claire
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The topic last week is about how to pick up a girl.
And next week we will learn how to dump a girl!
This is really a fast food society.
Daniel Ka
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Break-Up Vocabulary

「三人行」:menagé a trois
三P:threesome
三角戀愛:love triangle
不忠:unfaithful
互相信任: mutual trust
分手: go separate ways; split; break up
天涯何處無芳草:There are plenty of fish in the sea.
心不甘情不願的: reluctant
心如止水: one’s mind settled as still water
心情down到谷底: extremely dejected; one’s heart sinks
心情受創傷: suffer psychological trauma
心情起漣漪: stir up one’s heart
心情煩悶: unhappy; worried
心理諮詢: psychological consultation; counseling
令人傷心的: heartbreaking
甩掉男友或女友: dump
合適: be suit ed to each other
有緣份:linked by ties of fate
吹牛: boast; brag; talk big; draw the long bow; blow one’s own horn
快樂的結局: happy ending
爭論: dispute
某人的出氣筒: be somebody's emotional punch bag
眉目傳情: make sheep’s eyes at somebody; make passes
眉來眼去: make eyes at each other; exchange love glances
背叛: betray
重新出發(開始做別的事): move on
家暴: domestic violence
破涕為笑: smile through tears; turn tears into smiles
財務糾紛: dispute over money
第三者: third party
通姦: adultery
速配: match
單相思: unrequited love
單戀某人: carry a torch for somebody
報復: revenge
無法妥協的歧見: irreconcilable differences
辜負: disappoint; let somebody down
傷心的: heartbroken
嫉妒: jealous
感到內疚: feel guilty
劃清界線: set boundaries
對...不忠: cheat on somebody
精神賠償: compensation for spiritual damage
與... 約會: date somebody; be seeing somebody
與...維持一段感情: have a relationship with somebody
語言搔擾: verbal abuse; verbal harassment
遠距離戀情: long distance love
劈腿: cheating; two-time; double-cross
憂鬱症: depression
邂逅: encounter; meet by chance
雙重人格: dual personality
雙面人: double-face; Janus-faced
贍養費: alimony
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wow....
it's an upset topic.
.....#$%....
Yours Faithfully

Unice Lin
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In session II, we got five groups to brainstorm the drama related to "A happy ending for a break-up" and "Baby come back! -- How do you win her (his) love back?".
Every story is so interesting and well-designed by each group.

Story 1: A busy couple got some problems with their marriage. The husband had a female best friend and he often complained his wife to her. One day the wife wanted to know the girl so the husband brought his wife to meet his female best friend in a pub. The girl had a boy-friend and they also got some problems with their relationship. The husband and his female friend had a wonderful chat; at the same time, the wife also enjoyed the time very much talking to the girl's boy-friend. In the end, one couple got divorced, and the other couple broke up. The divorced husband got along with the girl, and the divorced wife got along with the boy. :shock:

Story 2: An over-weighted girl got dumped by her picky boy-friend. So her best friend took her to a gym and she met a handsome trainer of the fitness center. The girl was strongly motivated to reduce her weight and became so slim. Her ex-boyfriend beg her to come back to him, but the girl declined and decided to cherish herself more than before. :D

Story 3: A girl wanted to break up with her boy-friend due to long distance between Taiwan and United States. One of the boy's friend sponsored an air ticket to let him fly to US to make up with his girl friend. The boy requested a love song which was the girl's favoriate in the school bus. The girl was touched by the song and more surprisingly to see her boy- friend appeared in front of her. Finally there was a happy ending. :D

Story 4: Two naughty boys found out their rich father had an affair. They decided to blackmail their father for a car and a house. But the father didn't accept it then the two sons told their mother the cruel truth. Mother invited the young girl who had an affair with her husband and persuaded her to leave her husband. The girl agreed to break up with the father, but the mother divorced her husband at the end and the two kids got nothing. :twisted:

Story 5: A man got nightmares every night because he felt guilty to leave his ex-lover. His girl-friend noticed the situation and also felt sorry that she stole him from the ex-lover. She encouraged him to contact his ex-lover and expressed his regret to his ex-lover. The man did it and then realized that his ex-boyfriend lived happily with his current boy-friend. 8)

Isn't it wonderful that every group performed so well ? :love:

Thanks to all of you to bring us such happy time talking about "break-up".

Meanwhile, thanks to Claire for hosting such an interesting topic.


Welcome our new YOYO member, Armando Lin, who is a magician. How magical ! :D


Lydia
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Unice 寫:wow....
it's an upset topic.
.....#$%....

It's a pity that energetic Unice didn't show up this week. :cry:
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There is a world of difference between a garden variety "break-up" and an exit strategy for the epic romantic disaster of the century. The latter one makes the former one feels like a sunday walk in the park.
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感謝大家的參予!
能與大家一起學習與分享真是好棒的 experience :D
另外還更感謝 Lydia 精采的 drama summary
YOYO member 個個都是 great actor, 太好玩了!!

PS. "Save the last for the best" ---Wayne 如是說---

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Host Claire would like to thank the following attendants for their support:

Anna, Armando, Chris Chang, Daisy, Grace Yang, Hanphy, Henry, Julian, Kooper, Laura, Linda Liao, Luis, Lydia, Lynn, Rico, Maggie Wang, Monica, Richard Liu, Pierce, Stephen Chiu, Tina, Wayne Chiang, Wayne Ni, and Winson.

Newbie: Cinne, Emily Huang, Fred, Hubert, Jacoby, and Rei.

Session 1 speakers: Anna, Fred, Henry, Hubert, and Kooper.
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