It was once a frenzy of “weekend spirit”, but now it seems it's winding down at our Saturday gatherings. Just hope we can get some enthusiasm back onto our table on Saturdays! Don't let Tuesday folks have all the fun!
On 5/21, if you are free, just drop by and have a chat about “Nonviolent Communication”.
Nonviolent Communication Summary (NVC): A Concise Guide to Nonviolent Communication
http://www.wanttoknow.info/inspiration/ ... ummary_nvc
(Or the NVC "Quotes" make it easier to grasp some of the concepts: http://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/ ... quotes.htm)
What is “Nonviolent Communication”?
- "Violent" vs "Nonviolent" Communication”
If "violent" means acting in ways that result in harm, then much of how we communicate — with moralistic judgments, evaluations, criticisms, demands, coercion, or labels of "right" versus "wrong" — could indeed be called violent.
Unaware of the impact, we judge, label, criticize, command, demand, threaten, blame, accuse and ridicule. Speaking and thinking in these ways often leads to inner wounds, which in turn often evolve into depression, anger or physical violence.
( http://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/ ... cation.htm)
Wiki: Nonviolent" Communication
Nonviolent communication (abbreviated NVC, also called compassionate communication or collaborative communication) is a communication process developed by Marshall Rosenberg beginning in the 1960s.
Nonviolent communication is based on the idea that all human beings have the capacity for compassion and only resort to violence or behavior that harms others when they don't recognize more effective strategies for meeting needs.
The Purpose of NVC...
To inspire compassionate, heartfelt connection so that all needs may be valued
To connect to the life in ourselves and others
To be inspired and to inspire others to give from the heart
What NVC is not …
NVC is not about being nice; it's about being real. It's not about stifling intensity, but transforming it.
NVC is not about changing other people or getting them to do what we want. It's about creating connection & understanding.
NVC is not a technique or formula. It's a process that helps guide our consciousness to a new awareness.
- “John was angry with me yesterday for no reason.”
“You always forget what I told you to do.”
“My wife hardly express any affection.”
“Please do not shout in this room.”
“I’d like you to feel more confidence in yourself.”
“Your dog just made a mess on my lawn.”
“You are so smart. Our team cannot do without you in this competition.”
“Hey kids, flashlights aren’t toys. Don’t waste batteries. They cost money.”
Session I:
1. What is the ideal communication? What blocks us from getting it?
2. Distinguishing Evaluation from Observation (The 1st Component of NVC)
- “When we combine observation with evaluation, others are apt to hear criticism and resist what we are saying.”
Exercise: “Observation or Evaluation?” (Each group will be given some statements to work on.)
Group Discussion: What kind of “Evaluations” irritate you the most or vise versa (i.e. what you annoy others easily)? What did you get with this type of conversation?
- “What others say and do may be the stimulus, but never the cause of, our feelings.”
“We see that our feelings result from how we choose to receive what others say and do, as well as from our particular needs and expectations in that moment.”
Build a vocabulary of feelings, clearly identify our emotions, allow us to be vulnerable: All that may help resolve the conflicts.
What do you feel differently about the following two statements?
- “I feel really infuriated when you made such lousy mistakes in our public brochures.”
- “I feel really infuriated when spelling mistakes like that appear in our public brochures, because I want our company to project a professional image.”
Describe a scenario, in which you expressed yourself with (or without) taking responsibility for your feelings and needs. What was the result?
1. Expressing Requests (The 4th Components of NVC)
- "Requests: avoid vague, abstract, or ambiguous phrasing; use positive language by stating what we ARE requesting rather than what we are NOT."
Exercise: Identify Clear Requests: Each group will be given a couple statements to work on.
- Example:
“Hi, Felix, when I (1) see socks under the coffee table I (2) feel irritated because I am needing (3) more order in the room that we share in common. (4) Would you be willing to put your socks in your room or in the washing machine? [If the response lacks clarity or seems disconnected, then request feedback.] (5) So I know that you understood me, would you tell me what you heard me say?”
4. (Bonus Question) What are the differences between NVC and "politically correct"?
[Notes: If you can come on time that would be great. To reward that, some light refreshments will be provided at 4pm. After the meeting, if anyone would like to stay for a dinner chat, we can do that. ]
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Agenda:
3:45 ~ 4:00pm Greetings & Free Talk / Ordering Beverage or Meal / Getting Newcomer’s Information
4:00 ~ 4:10pm Opening Remarks / Newcomer’s Self-introduction / Grouping
(Session I)
4:10 ~ 4:50pm Discussion Session (40 mins)
4:50 ~ 5:10pm Summarization (20 mins)
5:10 ~ 5:15pm Regrouping / Instruction Giving / Taking a 10 Minutes Break (Intermission)
(Session II)
5:15 ~ 5:55pm Discussion Session (40 mins)
6:00 ~ 6:20pm Summarization (20 mins)
6:20 ~ 6:30pm Concluding Remarks / Announcements ********************************************************************************************************************************************
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聚會時間:請準時 4:00 pm 到 ~ 約 6:30 pm 左右結束
星期六聚會地點:丹堤濟南店
地址、電話:台北市濟南路三段25號 地圖 (02) 2740-2350
捷運站:板南線 忠孝新生站 3 號出口
走法:出忠孝新生站 3 號出口後,沿著巷子(忠孝東路三段10巷)走約 2 分鐘,到了濟南路口,左轉走約 2 分鐘即可看到。
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