9/20 (Tue) How to start a small talk? (Host: Annie)

[Annie Zhang]

Hi Yoyoers,

How many times per week do you find yourself talking about topics you have no interest in or have already discussed a million times- just for something to say? Or you have no idea what to say to an acquaintance or to a complete stranger? Today’s discussion we are going to talk about how to make small talk and let the conversation go much easier.


Session one

Material 1&2:
The 10 Big Rules of Small Talk

How To Make Small Talk


Q 1 How to strike up a conversation? Please share the tips of how to break the ice with a stranger or an acquaintance.
Q 2 Have you ever experienced in an awkward silence? And how did you deal with it or fill the silence?
Q 3 Do you think the introverts tend to dread small talk than the extroverts?




Session two

Material 3:
Julian Treasure: How to speak so that people want to listen
http://www.ted.com/playlists/211/the_ar ... l_conversa



Q 4 Have you ever fall into the seven deadly sins of speaking that is mentioned in this TEDtalk video? Seven bad habits includes “Gossip”,”judging”, “negativity”,”complaining”,”excuses”, “lying”, “dogmatism”. What other things you think that people should avoid?

Q 5 In the video Julian Treasure suggests four foundation that make the conversation more powerful: “Honesty”- be clear and straight, “Authenticity”- be yourself, “Integrity”- be your word, “Love”- wish them well. Please share your strategies for getting people to listen to you. (eg. to avoid speaking “I” and “me” all the time…)

Q 6 Related to question 4, certainly we shall avoid the seven bad habits of speaking, but what if we want to address negative complaining? How to release emotional blockages?

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Agenda:
6:45 ~ 7:00pm Greetings & Free Talk / Ordering Beverage or Meal / Getting Newcomer’s Information
7:00 ~ 7:10pm Opening Remarks / Newcomer’s Self-introduction / Grouping
(Session I)
7:10 ~ 7:50pm Discussion Session (40 mins)
7:50 ~ 8:10pm Summarization (20 mins)
8:10 ~ 8:25pm Regrouping / Instruction Giving / Taking a 10 Minutes Break (Intermission)
(Session II)
8:25 ~ 9:05pm Discussion Session (40 mins)
9:05 ~ 9:25pm Summarization (20 mins)
9:25 ~ 9:30pm Concluding Remarks / Announcements
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[Laura]

This topic, I like it .

[Annie Zhang]

It’s getting cooler these days, perhaps Dante felt the changes so it gave us a very warm meeting room without air-con tonight. Yet I hope you enjoyed the meeting. Here are the books we mentioned during today’s meeting:

(1) A Complaint Free World 不抱怨的世界： http://www.books.com.tw/products/0010416000
(2) How To Talk To Anyone 跟任何人都可以聊得來：http://www.books.com.tw/products/0010570709


Here is the attendee list:

**Attendees:
Tom
Kooper
Jason
Ken
Rosie
Luis
Shirley
Yvonne
Jessie
Morris
Jason,
Iris
Amy
Cami (?)
Sophie
Linda
Liwen
James
Steve
Wen-Han
Light
Manech(new comer)
Edison (new comer)

**Session one speakers: Rosie, Morris, Linda, Steve
**Session two speakers: Tom, Kooper, Ken, Shirley, Liwen

Thanks for coming tonight!!