“What is the first sight you feel about me?” people want to know the answer from time to time. The reason is we care about the way other people think. Since we live in a community, deal with people every day whatever for job or social, the image becomes very important. A good image makes it easier to make a friend, find a job, get a promotion, earn a contract, and even date a girl/boy. How would you impress a stranger when you meet each other in the first time? What’s the most important factor? Let’s have a discussion and find out.
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First Impressions and Second Chances
By An-Ju Chu
How do you get a guy or girl to like you after just one meeting? The answer is all about first impressions. What kind of impression do you give to someone you meet for the first time? Are you friendly, talkative, shy, or goofy? How are you dressed? What do you talk about with him or her? These are the kind of things to think about when you evaluate people’s first impression of you.
The answer to the question is simple. As long as you are yourself, you will attract the girl or guy who is most right for you. After all, you want somebody to like you for who you are in all aspects. However, that does not mean that if you are funny, you should crack jokes 24/7, or if you are a genius, you should talk about Einstein’s Theory of Relativity, unless of course he or she is interested in the topic too. In addition to being yourself, there are a few factors that you should consider in your quest to impress. First, always be respectful to the other person. Speak your mind, but let the other person speak too. Fluid communication is very important in making a good first impression. Ask questions about the other person, and make him or her feel like you are interested in knowing about him or her. Do not let the conversation go stale. Compliments are nice, but don’t say them unless you really mean them. Also, the way you dress can be a factor in getting the guy or girl to like you. Most importantly, just be clean and make sure you smell nice enough not to repel anyone. I’m not going to tell you what to wear because not everyone likes the same look or attire, thus, to talk about it would be futile. Furthermore, be confident in yourself but not cocky. Overall, make the environment comfortable. Be friendly, respectful, and confident, and look clean and have a good conversation.
So what if you didn’t impress the guy or girl the first time. That’s okay because there are second chances. If you tried everything I mentioned above and she or he didn’t go for you, try to find out more about her or him. Figure out what he or she likes to do and invite them to do it with you. Be open-minded and willing to try new things. Try to keep things on a friendly level. After all, you don’t want to scare anyone away. Sometimes people just want to be friends first before diving into dating. “If at first you don’t succeed, try try again.”
[discussion questions]
1.What’s the first impression you want to give or you think you are giving? Confirm it with your group members.
2.How would you impress a stranger when you’re meeting her/him for the first time? In other hand, what kind of appearances or behaviors makes you a good impression at the first sight?
As you know, it’s very hard to get acquaintance with a stranger, especially beautiful ladies or handsome guys for the first time. But it may become easier at second chance. Then how to get the second chance becomes very critical.
3.What kind of invitations would you accept when you were asked for the second time? In other words, what kind of people are you willing to give them second chance? Is it based on appearance, personality, or the way they invite you? Explain it.
4.Have you ever dated a stranger? Please share your experiences with us.