10/14(Sat.)In-Law Relationships (Host: Gloria)

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Gloria Lo
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註冊時間: 週一 2月 04, 2008 7:51 am

10/14(Sat.)In-Law Relationships (Host: Gloria)

文章 Gloria Lo »

Hi, dear yoyo members,
Thank you for bearing me hosting again.
People say that marriage is like gambling. To some degree, it refers to in-law relationships. Some of us are lucky to live without this problem while others are suffering and exhausting themselves because of this burning issue.
Let’s share our thoughts about it. Trust me! No matter you're single or married, you'll gain something from the discussion.

:lol: :roll: :wink: :sun:

Dealing with a Difficult Mother-in-Law
http://www.womansday.com/relationships/ ... aw-102695/



Tips to Handle Overbearing In Laws
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gv5VQRoa1PM


Questions for Discussion

Session 1
1.Can you talk about your, your parents’ and friends’ real experiences of handling parents-in-law or children-in-law? Anything good or bad happened? What’s the worst/best story you’ve heard of in terms of dealing with in-law relationships?

2.When it comes to in-law relationships, it’s a two-way street. What are the main issues in an in-law relationship? In your opinion, what are the problems or behavior of in-laws that you can’t tolerate?

3.Do you think these tips are helpful or totally useless? Why? What’s the best tip for you?

4.What characteristics a perfect parent-in-law or child-in-law should have?



Session 2
5.What are the right concepts or rules towards in-law relationships that you should have before getting married? (Especially in Asian societies) Or,what's the appropriate/inappropriate mindset when handling your spouse's family?

6.What do you think a spouse should do when facing this kind of problem? How do you communicate with your spouse over an in-law relationship issue that bothers you?

7.How do you prevent yourself from stepping into a marriage with difficult in-law relationships? Or, what are the signs of possible in-law conflicts in the future? How can you deal with that wisely before and after you get married?


More to discuss
Do you think calling your mother-in-law "Mom" is a good idea? Do you feel comfortable with that?




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Agenda:
3:45 ~ 4:00pm Greetings & Free Talk / Ordering Beverage or Meal / Getting Newcomer’s Information
4:00 ~ 4:10pm Opening Remarks / Newcomer’s Self-introduction / Grouping
(Session I)
4:10 ~ 4:50pm Discussion Session (40 mins)
4:50 ~ 5:10pm Summarization (20 mins)
5:10 ~ 5:15pm Regrouping / Instruction Giving / Taking a 10 Minutes Break (Intermission)
(Session II)
5:15 ~ 5:55pm Discussion Session (40 mins)
6:00 ~ 6:20pm Summarization (20 mins)
6:20 ~ 6:30pm Concluding Remarks / Announcements
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Luis Ko
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註冊時間: 週三 6月 06, 2007 10:18 pm

Re: 10/14(Sat.)In-Law Relationships (Host: Gloria)

文章 Luis Ko »

personally i have never had any problem with in-law relationships, and there has never been any in-law relationship ever existing because of me. but in my opinion, most of the time the key to the problem is the middle man, to be more specifically, the one who gets the relationships connected. their attitudes towards the two ends of the relationships are the answer to the problem, otherwise it is to blame for making a problem even worse i would say.. 8)
i might be a cynic and, a sceptic as well but, i'm definitely not a bad person!!
Kooper
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註冊時間: 週三 4月 11, 2007 11:40 pm

Re: 10/14(Sat.)In-Law Relationships (Host: Gloria)

文章 Kooper »

words from the meeting:
媽寶: mama's boy

words & expressions from the YouTube video:

an overbearing in-law
in-law relationships can put a huge strain on you and your spouse
You can use these rules for friends, neighbors... people who just put get on your nerves
to bad-mouth somebody
use your skills, forte
give them the benefit of the doubt
create chaos and havoc
We are not always beholden to you
We won't talk behind each other's backs
Luis Ko
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註冊時間: 週三 6月 06, 2007 10:18 pm

Re: 10/14(Sat.)In-Law Relationships (Host: Gloria)

文章 Luis Ko »

after the discussion and what Leon said, instead of two families, in managing his marriage he tries to focus on the relationship between he and his wife only. i kind of agree with that, totally. therefore my conclusion is, with full support of your partner, maybe your in-laws will have problems with you but you won't have in-law problems, or say it will be nothing to you, whereas without your partner's support, not only will there be problems between you and your in-laws, if any, but your marriage will also be in big trouble.. XD
i might be a cynic and, a sceptic as well but, i'm definitely not a bad person!!
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Re: 10/14(Sat.)In-Law Relationships (Host: Gloria)

文章 Gloria Lo »

Attendees: Momo, Rita Chang, Leo Sun, Bella Kang, Rock, Robert, Vicky, David, Luis, Leon, Nick, Michael, Wendy, Kooper, Gloria
Thank you for coming. :lol: 8) :P
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