6/16 (Sat.) A Life in Transition (Host:Leon)

6/16 (Sat.) A Life in Transition (Host:Leon)

文章Leon » 週一 6月 11, 2018 11:09 pm

A Life in Transition

Transition means from somewhere to somewhere. If you are in a period of transition right now in your life, you have left the life you were living, and you have not arrived at the life you are moving to. It might be a career change, a relationship change, a loss, a move, a change of heart, a change of interests, a change of finances, a change of health.

There are many changes we go through in life. These major changes can seem a little scary if you don’t know where you are going. They can seem a bit disorienting if you do know where you want to go, but don’t have a clue as to how to get there. They can seem driven by conflict if the change was not of your own choosing, such as losing a job or a relationship in which you were left. In those cases, you thought you were fine, but then, you had to rethink your entire life.
These periods, while sometimes hard, are often some of the best things that can happen to you. While you are going through that, you won’t be able to appreciate the change. But later, once you have landed in your new life, once you have landed on your feet with an even better life than the one you have left, you will look back in retrospect and see the transition for what it was, a period of growth, soul searching, rediscovery, and renewal.

Our friend, Candice Carpaenter ran emerging businesses at American Express, won an Emmy for a documentary series when she was a senior executive of Time Warner, and she is the founder of iVillage. And after she left iVillage, she wrote a wonderful book about a life in transition called Chapters.

In Chapters, she talks about the profound cycles of change a life can take.

The first stage she calls The Gig Is Up.

This is when you know that what you have been doing is over. Perhaps you know it intuitively. Perhaps you know it consciously. But somehow you know it’s over, and know it rather deeply. What had been your life can no longer go on. It is unsupportable on some fundamental level.

When you try to hold on to a job, career, relationship, living situation, or the direction your life has taken, and, to use Candice’s phrase, the gig is up, change will be thrust upon you with greater and greater force until you let go. The more you try to hold on, the more the intensity of the tornado that is pulling you out of the present unworkable situation.

The next stage in the pattern is Falling.

Candice describes Falling this way: “disengaged, disidentified, and disenchanted, we fall into disorientation.” This is the most frightening experience we feel in the cycle.

Then comes A Walk In The Desert in which you are able to reflect about the most existential issues of your life.

Next comes Stirrings.

Candice describes it as: “All the threads of your past ultimately will be woven together as you become an accomplished creator.” Let me quote that again: “All the threads of your past ultimately will be woven together as you become an accomplished creator.”

This stage is followed by A Stake in the Ground, in which you begin to focus and then commit yourself to your new way of life.

Candice describes still more stages in the cycle that enable you to build your new life. There is much wisdom and truth in her observations about the nature of change. Change often is a kind of death followed by a resurrection.

One thing that will be helpful, if you are going through this type of transition, is to not spend time resenting that the past is over. The faster you can come to terms with reality, the better you will be able to move to your next stage of creating your life. And remember that creating is not problem solving. If you attempt to make a transition by reacting to the conflict you feel, you will only fall into an oscillating pattern in which any success you create will not last, and you will revert back into something that is not sustainable.

If you are in transition, and you don’t know what you want, get into motion. Do things, little things. Create little projects. Built your creative muscles. Volunteer for local charities, get involved with the good works your community is doing. Do not spend a lot of time sitting around feeling sorry for yourself.

In your period of transition, if that is where you are right now in your life, you don’t need to know where it is going to finally land. And, this is key, if you start to move in any direction, you will have the momentum you need to create your future more easily than if you were not moving at all.

Don’t see the period of transition as something bad. See it as something real, and you are closer to the nature of such periods in our lives. A time to rethink, reflect, reevaluate, and then set the direction for the next major period you want in your life.

article: https://www.facebook.com/RobertFritzInc ... 94127003:0

Session 1:
1. Do you have experiences of career change, job change or major change?
Do you choose to change or are forced to change under this situation?
How do you go through it? Is it similar to the 3 stages mentioned in the article?

2. Share one of the transitions which was not of your own choosing and describe the process you went through it.

3. People said "Make change before you are forced to change". Do you have this kind of experience?

Session 2:
1. Do you have experiences of relationship change or role change?
Do you choose to change or are forced to change under this situation?
How do you go through it? Is it similar to the 3 stages mentioned in the article?

2. After you go through transitions in your life, how do these transitions impact your life?
"These periods, while sometimes hard, are often some of the best things that can happen to you."
Do you agree with it?

3. The article mentions: “All the threads of your past ultimately will be woven together as you become an accomplished creator.”
Could you share your opinion on it?



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Re: 6/16 (Sat.) A Life in Transition (Host:Leon)

文章Iris Wu » 週五 6月 15, 2018 10:00 pm

"Change often is a kind of death followed by a resurrection." -- Well said!

"Change before you are forced to change" is also a good advice. Most people react to things, few can be prepared for unexpected. In job market, it is good to make no assumption that you can always be relevant, so keep learning and be ready for changes to avoid being obsolete.

Actually, I think "transition" is a hopeful stage. What is more difficult in life is that you are forced to "stay put", no transition and no way out. I wonder what kind of advice the author would recommend?
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Re: 6/16 (Sat.) A Life in Transition (Host:Leon)

文章Kooper » 週五 6月 15, 2018 11:27 pm

Hi Iris,
You are very positive about “transition!”

At workplace we are often encouraged to act proactively, which seems to possess a similar mindset. That is, make the changes we want happen instead of reacting to external changes.
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Re: 6/16 (Sat.) A Life in Transition (Host:Leon)

文章Leon » 週六 6月 16, 2018 12:22 am

Iris Wu 寫:"
"Change before you are forced to change" is also a good advice.


As Kooper mention, we often see it in workplace. Some company go transforming like IBM and Microsoft and keep re-organization, dismiss department, layoff people and recruit people at the same time for survive.

Iris Wu 寫:"
Actually, I think "transition" is a hopeful stage. What is more difficult in life is that you are forced to "stay put", no transition and no way out. I wonder what kind of advice the author would recommend?


This question make this topic into next level. We may discuss it in the meeting if we have time.
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Re: 6/16 (Sat.) A Life in Transition (Host:Leon)

文章Gloria Lo » 週六 6月 16, 2018 8:05 am

As a Gemini, in this stage of life, I embrace every small transition in life which makes me feel vigorous and re-energized. Yoyo is a giant engine for that. It provides us with unlimited possibilities and like-minded friends to give everything a try.
Job and Family, these big things may make us stay put, but small transitions and adventures always light up our lives and sometimes amazingly change our mindset, furthermore, make us see things from different angle.

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Re: 6/16 (Sat.) A Life in Transition (Host:Leon)

文章Way » 週六 6月 16, 2018 11:44 am

Quite inspirational topic chosen by Leo, transition could happen in every stage of our lives and in many aspects. It just depends on how you react this change and how you want this transition to move. Normally "thinking positive" is an appropriate way to get through it like above typical Gemini's great comment :) . Another idea comes to my mind is " Don't wait for extraordinary opportunities. Seize common occasions and make them great."
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文章Leon » 週一 6月 18, 2018 8:45 am

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