7/17 A day in the life of a (ˍˍˍˍˍˍˍˍˍ)(Host: John)

7/17 A day in the life of a (ˍˍˍˍˍˍˍˍˍ)(Host: John)

文章JohnH » 週六 7月 14, 2018 10:58 pm

Sesion one:

As the proverb goes, "Acquiring knowledge is a form of imitation." Without a doubt, we learn things through mimicking someone we adore. In recent years, there are more and more people willing to share their personal life on the internet by recording what they have done from early morning to late night and making it into a video. Plenty of them are presented in a quite detailed way. Please go to Youtube and type in the keywords on whatever life that you want to take a look at. Here are some of the examples that you can refer to.
A Day in the Life of a MIT Student
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZMyKOkyAjUQ&t=77s
A Day in the Life of a Yale Student (division 1 athlete in sport)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wcnq-BgwXPw
A day in the life of a homeless who picks up woman every night for a living
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bmav517MQJc
A day in the life of a pornstar
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=43uTBB574g4
A day in the life of a street bodybuilder
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LpTeiSKiCgc

1.Please introduce the video you chose and the reason why you are interested in taking a peek at it?

2. What makes you want to click and pick that specific video out among all the relevant ones in the first place? What sticks out at you in the video?? Why?? Do you think there’s a big difference between the life presented in the video and yours? What is it?

3. What’s the thing that you wanna know more about but isn’t presented in the video? After watching it, is there anything you learned that you wanna share? ( For example, the secret to a successful life or career, the tips to put time into greater use, the value that you appreciate, and so forth)

Sesion two:

The second discussion session will be going in a slightly different direction, which is based on several psychological research carried out on human emotions—envy, but I still tried to correlate it to session one and make it more thought-provoking.

Why Do We Envy Others? 7 Things To Know About The Psychology Of Feeling Green
https://www.bustle.com/articles/174232-why-do-we-envy-others-7-things-to-know-about-the-psychology-of-feeling-green
Envy: The Emotion Kept Secret
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/intense-emotions-and-strong-feelings/201103/envy-the-emotion-kept-secret
When does Good Envy turn into Bad Envy? The Relationship between Benign and Malicious Envy
https://repository.tudelft.nl/islandora/object/uuid:29b44270-bcc0-4199-9602-6046b4ed2365/datastream/OBJ/download

1. Envy has many different manifestations, one of which worth mentioning here is the attraction. According to what’s put in the research, it is possible to mistake what you are envious of about a person for attraction to him or her. Put simply, you might fall in love with what you want for yourself that someone might happen to have. It could be money, status, talent and so on. (1) Do you think part of the reason why those videos can draw your attention is envy? What is the envy of you( something wanted and desired by you) in the life portrayed in the video? (2) Have you ever encountered the similar experience of mistaking one feeling for another as mentioned above? What is it?Do you think it's normal as human? What do you think is the correlation between them?

2. Envy, in fact, comes in with two different types: benign envy and malicious envy. Malicious envy makes people want to tear down the person they envy and shift their focus on “the person” instead of the object owned, which might even bring about “schadenfreude” whereas benign envy involves a greater focus on something that you envy and motivation to achieve it for yourself, leading later on to self-improvement. (1) which one of them do you feel more often? What’s the possible factor which directs you in this course? Why there are some people who feel malicious envy more frequently than others do while some who feel benign envy under most circumstances? (2) What're your hypotheses on the factor that moderates the relationship between them?

3. It is possible that what we are envious of stems from what our parents instilled in us in the formative years, including something they envy. A case in point is prestigious panic which denotes that some people somehow wish for going to the Ivy League schools in the United States because that’s what their parents admire and envy. (1) Can you think of anything that you envy due to others’ influence? What is it? Did you find the intrinsic value in trying hard to live up to that expectation? (getting what you lack) Which one do you think it is (what you are envious of) — innate or acquired? Why?

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7:00 ~ 7:20pm Opening Remarks / Newcomer’s Self-introduction / Grouping
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7:20 ~ 8:00pm Discussion Session (40 mins)
8:00 ~ 8:20pm Summarization (20 mins)
8:20 ~ 8:30pm Regrouping / Instruction Giving / Taking a 10 Minutes Break (Intermission)
(Session II)
8:30~ 9:10pm Discussion Session (40 mins)
9:10~ 9:30pm Summarization / Concluding Remarks / Announcements(20 mins)


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文章Rock » 週一 7月 16, 2018 9:07 am

JohnH 寫:Why there are some people who feel malicious envy more frequently than others do while some who feel benign envy under most circumstances?


Because they are intrinsically evil?

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文章JohnH » 週一 7月 16, 2018 10:15 am

Rock 寫:
JohnH 寫:Why there are some people who feel malicious envy more frequently than others do while some who feel benign envy under most circumstances?


Because they are intrinsically evil?


I figure it's just because not everyone is as perfect as you :lol:
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文章Iris Wu » 週二 7月 17, 2018 12:31 pm

Very high-quality study materials and academic essay-type of questions!
I have to admit that it took some time to finish reading all the materials. I should have started preparing the meeting much earlier. Lesson learned! Next time when John hosts, I’ll start reading right after he posts the articles.

I was most surprised by the experiment result (in “When does Good Envy turn into Bad Envy?”) for Hypotheses 3: “The tendency to engage in ability-oriented comparisons positively moderates the relationship between benign and malicious envy.”
I thought it (ability-oriented comparisons) would result in a more neutral and healthier attitude towards self-enhancement instead of malicious envy, but, anyway, it is good to know the good envy could turn into something ugly, a very helpful reminder for our self-realization.

With all the insightful psychological analysis and tips, if one thing I can conclude with my own words is that to view the envy as human nature; it is a driving force for our evolution if we treat it correctly. At a personal level, if we can anchor ourselves, ground ourselves to our true value, we should be able to mitigate the negative impact of envy/ covetousness. I am not saying it is easy. It requires a serious self-realization and self-actualization processes. Personally, to reach that point is still a long short.
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文章Rock » 週二 7月 17, 2018 1:31 pm

JohnH 寫:
I figure it's just because not everyone is as perfect as you :lol:


No way! The only good thing I have is a strong jaw.

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文章JohnH » 週二 7月 17, 2018 1:50 pm

Iris Wu 寫:Very high-quality study materials and academic essay-type of questions!
I have to admit that it took some time to finish reading all the materials. I should have started preparing the meeting much earlier. Lesson learned! Next time when John hosts, I’ll start reading right after he posts the articles.

I was most surprised by the experiment result (in “When does Good Envy turn into Bad Envy?”) for Hypotheses 3: “The tendency to engage in ability-oriented comparisons positively moderates the relationship between benign and malicious envy.”
I thought it (ability-oriented comparisons) would result in a more neutral and healthier attitude towards self-enhancement instead of malicious envy, but, anyway, it is good to know the good envy could turn into something ugly, a very helpful reminder for our self-realization.

Reading all the study materials provided isn't a must because I just included those I read to help me design the questions. Just in case there are some members who want to know more after checking out the questions, they have pieces of related literature to refer to. NO pressure!! I will give some info and a brief intro before each session gets started. Yeah, you are onto something. I figured this hypothesis brought up in the study isn't perfect. I think it's because people with the tendency to ability-oriented comparison might feel threatened at the very beginning when they see someone more superior who totally outshines them in the field they care about and take very seriously. How they turn this malicious envy into drive might differ from one person to another and come after. But I think there are still some other aspects the author didn't take into account. Since it's just hypothetical, maybe some of our members have more sightful ideas which can interpret the relation between them to deeper degree.
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文章Gloria Lo » 週二 7月 17, 2018 2:26 pm

The video of street bodybuilder reminded me of the Japanese comic books: 孤獨的美食家. The main character, who is an international furniture trader, lives a life without boss, store, colleagues….. intentionally. His regular life goes like having business trips around Japan and having local gourmet meals. He said: just like getting married, if you have a store or a company, the things you are going to protect would become more and more, and your life would become heavier and heavier. Basically, all men prefer to live a life alone.

Do you agree with him? :lol:
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文章JohnH » 週三 7月 18, 2018 12:46 pm

Gloria Lo 寫:The video of street bodybuilder reminded me of the Japanese comic books: 孤獨的美食家. The main character, who is an international furniture trader, lives a life without boss, store, colleagues….. intentionally. His regular life goes like having business trips around Japan and having local gourmet meals. He said: just like getting married, if you have a store or a company, the things you are going to protect would become more and more, and your life would become heavier and heavier. Basically, all men prefer to live a life alone.

Do you agree with him? :lol:


It's very hard to say. Some don't like company while some need it very much. But I figure something both of them have in common is that in order to keep focusing on what they really take pleasure in doing they intentionally make their life as simple as possible. When it becomes too complicated, they might get overwhelmed. As you said above, the things they have to deal with and protect gradually are turned into heavy burdens put on their shoulder so that their focus get diverted and they become less involved. Once our hobby grows into work, we might not enjoy doing it as much as we used to. How to keep our passion and make it long-lasting for the lifetime might not be as easy as most people think it is.
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文章Gloria Lo » 週三 7月 18, 2018 11:32 pm

Attendees(32)
Amy, Felicia, Light, Norman, Janice, Gloria, Chris, Christine Hsiu, Brian, Vicky, Wen-han, Ryan Hsu, Iris, Rock, Debby, John(host), Devry, Maggie, Steve, Summer, Ellen, Sherry, Miller, Anne, Luis, Yvonne, Felicidad, Alicia, David, Ramesh, Shirley, Georgia

John hit a record high! :lol: :lol: :lol:
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