6/22(Sat.) Happy Ending (Host: Alice Li)

6/22(Sat.) Happy Ending (Host: Alice Li)

文章alice809 » 週日 6月 16, 2019 3:31 pm

Hi everyone, I'm Alice. It is my first time to be a host. I hope you enjoy this topic that we seldom talk about it in daily conversation.

We often hear about a happy ending at the end of a story, but can we really have a happy ending?

I went a few funerals in recent years, some died accidentally, some died as they are old and get ill. Furthermore, my parents both are old and becoming more fragile, and I also see some of the invalid medical treatments in the terminally ill patients and often wonder do they still think it's a life to them, although they are literally breathing.

All of these personal experiences lead me to be more aware of our own mortality, and no one can avoid it. However, for many reasons, most of us seldom talk about it, and it's indeed not an easy topic to bring to the table. Hence, I'd like to take this opportunity to talk about death and dying.

People probably can't help feel daunting about talking this topic but beginning the discussion probably would be the first step to empower people with choices. Death will still be awful and uneasy, but I hope today's discussion can let you feel more at ease about it and make things a bit easier. Lastly, I hope today's topic can somehow lead you to the happy ending you expected in your life.

Session 1: Patient Autonomy
A)VIDEO: First in Asia: Patient Autonomy Act goes into effect https://en.rti.org.tw/news/view/id/2000403
B)The fight of her life – for the right to die. Taiwan activist on patient autonomy law, the first in Asia
https://www.scmp.com/lifestyle/health/a ... tonomy-law
C)We’re Doing Dying All Wrong | Ken Hillman https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gQVC-8WEB7s

1. Patient Autonomy Act has been effective this year, how much do you know about it before came across it here?
2. Have you signed it? If not, would you consider to sign it, why or why not?
3. Do you agree with the author that death is being hijacked nowadays like we conduct the birthing in the 50s and 60s?
4. If you can choose, would you like to die at home or in the hospital, why is that?

Session 2: Making a death plan
A)A burial practice that nourishes the planet https://www.ted.com/talks/caitlin_dough ... the_planet
B)Making your DEATH PLAN! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=swQHx6EvrXQ

1. In the clip above, the speaker mentioned about natural burial, what's your opinion on this?
2. Please think about what you want to be done with your body? (e.g. cremated, buried?), and how you come to this decision?
3. What about your social media accounts? How would you deal with it?
4. Do you want to have a funeral? Why or why not? If yes, please share how your funeral would be?
5. What song do you want to play at your funeral? (If you don't want to have a funeral, please think about the song you want to play as you're lowered into the ground.)

I'd like to hear your thought about this topic, looking forward to seeing you at the meeting!
alice809
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Re: 6/22(Sat.) Happy Ending (Host: Alice Li)

文章Kooper » 週三 6月 19, 2019 8:36 pm

Hi Alice,

Your writing is really impressive. Hope to read more posts from you in the future. :D
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There are many reasons why people steer clear of the topic of death. Take me as an example. It still feel ill at ease for me to talk about my end-of-life care, death, and funeral with family members. Second, I am arguably still in good shape and don’t see the urgency to worry about it. Out of fear and laziness, I haven’t faced the subject head-on and taken any concrete steps that could one day prevent the most unfavorable outcome from happening.

What’s good about coming to YOYO meetings is that every now and then we discussed, or at least brushed over, this daunting topic. I hope the many discussions will eventually help me gear up and take actions soon in the future.
Kooper
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Re: 6/22(Sat.) Happy Ending (Host: Alice Li)

文章Kooper » 週三 6月 19, 2019 8:43 pm

A word of caution: the material is informative but it takes time to finish them. I would suggest would-be participants start preparation earlier.
Kooper
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Re: 6/22(Sat.) Happy Ending (Host: Alice Li)

文章Kooper » 週三 6月 19, 2019 8:44 pm

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Agenda:
3:50 ~ 4:00pm Greetings & Free Talk / Ordering Beverage or Meal / Getting Newcomer’s Information
4:00 ~ 4:20pm Opening Remarks / Newcomer’s Self-introduction / Grouping
(Session I)
4:20 ~ 5:00pm Discussion Session (40 mins)
5:00 ~ 5:20pm Summarization (20 mins)
5:20 ~ 5:30pm Regrouping / Instruction Giving / Taking a 10 Minutes Break (Intermission)
(Session II)
5:30~ 6:10pm Discussion Session (40 mins)
6:10~ 6:30pm Summarization / Concluding Remarks / Announcements(20 mins)
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聚會日期:列於該貼文主題內
聚會時間:當天請準時於 16:00 pm 到達 ~ 約 18:30 pm 左右結束
星期六聚會地點:丹堤濟南店
地址、電話:台北市濟南路三段25號 地圖 (02) 2740-2350
捷運站:板南線 忠孝新生站 3 號出口
走法:出忠孝新生站 3 號出口後,沿著巷子(忠孝東路三段10巷)走約 2 分鐘,到了濟南路口,左轉走約 2 分鐘即可看到。
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2. 請事先閱讀文章以及主持人所提的討論問題,並事先寫下自己所欲發表意見的英文。
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Re: 6/22(Sat.) Happy Ending (Host: Alice Li)

文章Iris Wu » 週五 6月 21, 2019 10:58 pm

Our host has carried out her debut with diligence and care. The reference materials provided are very informative and thought-provoking.

My life seems so straightforward that I can easily divide it into a couple of stages: Learning (being taken care), working (care for myself and my family), then the current stage, paying my “debt” to care for elderly parents/in-laws, financially and emotionally. But because of this duty call, I’ve learned a great deal about aging, and many things coming along with the aging process.

I often think my parent’s generation is a generation mixed with both luck and misery. Most of them did not get chance to see their own parents aging, and the medical technology has advanced to keep them around till their 80’s, 90’s, but they are not prepared. The technology prolongs their lives, but the complementary measures are not provided. They probably don’t even know the rights to live with dignity. They are lucky to have us around when they are aging, but they are miserable because they have little options to choose a good ending for themselves.

So many people have fought for the patient autonomy, the rights of patients to make decisions about their own medical care. We can only appreciate the effort and treasure these tools to leave a better version of us to the world. In the meantime, may these tools help us leave the world a better place for others, too!
Iris Wu
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Re: 6/22(Sat.) Happy Ending (Host: Alice Li)

文章alice809 » 週日 6月 23, 2019 9:07 pm

Attendees(14)
Alice(Host), David, Gloria, Kooper, Julian, Tom, Steve, Iris, Stephen, Rosie, Michelle, Donald, Tim, Tashi
Glad you came and I do enjoy it, hope you too!
alice809
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