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Love at first sight is REAL: Gazing into a person's eyes instead of looking at other body parts hints that you're falling for them
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech ... -them.html
University of Chicago researchers say direction of gaze can indicate feelings
They found that where a person looked at another determined 'love or lust'
Students were asked to view photographs of strangers in the study
For people they felt romantic love for they were likely to look in their eyes
But when they just felt lust they were more likely to look at other body parts
A study by University of Chicago researchers suggests the difference between love and lust might be in the eyes after all.
Specifically, where your date looks at you could indicate whether romance or passion is on the cards.
The research found that eye patterns concentrate on a stranger's face if the viewer sees that person as a potential partner in romantic love, but the viewer gazes more at the other person's body if he or she is feeling sexual desire.
Lead author Stephanie Cacioppo of the University of Chicago said that although 'little is currently known about the science of love at first sight or how people fall in love, these patterns of response provide the first clues regarding how automatic attentional processes, such as eye gaze, may differentiate feelings of love from feelings of desire toward strangers.'
The automatic judgment of love or lust can apparently occur in as little as half a second, producing different gaze patterns.
Previous research by Cacioppo has shown that different networks of brain regions are activated by love and sexual desire.
In this study, the team performed two experiments to test visual patterns in an effort to assess two different emotional and cognitive states that are often difficult to disentangle from one another - romantic love and sexual desire (lust).
Male and female students from the University of Geneva viewed a series of black-and-white photographs of persons they had never met.
In part one of the study, participants viewed photos of young, adult heterosexual couples who were looking at or interacting with each other.
In part two, participants viewed photographs of attractive individuals of the opposite sex who were looking directly at the camera or viewer.
None of the photos contained nudity or erotic images.
In both experiments, participants were placed before a computer and asked to look at different blocks of photographs and decide as rapidly and precisely as possible whether they perceived each photograph or the persons in the photograph as eliciting feelings of sexual desire or romantic love.
The study found no significant difference in the time it took subjects to identify romantic love versus sexual desire, which shows how quickly the brain can process both emotions, the researchers believe.
But analysis of the eye-tracking data from the two studies revealed marked differences in eye movement patterns, depending on whether the subjects reported feeling sexual desire or romantic love.
People tended to visually fixate on the face, especially when they said an image elicited a feeling of romantic love.
However, with images that evoked sexual desire, the subjects' eyes moved from the face to fixate on the rest of the body.
The effect was found for male and female participants.
'By identifying eye patterns that are specific to love-related stimuli, the study may contribute to the development of a biomarker that differentiates feelings of romantic love versus sexual desire,' said co-author John Cacioppo, director of the Center for Cognitive and Social Neuroscience.
'An eye-tracking paradigm may eventually offer a new avenue of diagnosis in clinicians' daily practice or for routine clinical exams in psychiatry and/or couple therapy.'
Alain de Botton on Love
backfire effect
https://whatis.techtarget.com/definitio ... MYUEkdVQUQ
The backfire effect is the tendency of some people to resist accepting evidence that conflicts with their beliefs. The effect is demonstrated when people presented with that conflicting information become even more convinced of their original beliefs rather than questioning them.
questions:
when it comes to Valentine's Day a hot date is kind of a must. what's your suggestion for the date? how do you celebrate it? or what are your suggestions for the very first date as a would-be lover, where to go, what to do and talk, or even how to dress? anything you think people should take notice. who do you think should pay the bill when you go on a date?
before you have an opportunity to celebrate Valentine's Day you got to have a partner first. what are your tip(s) to pick up a girl or, to attract a boy? When you just met someone you like for the first time, do you think it's possible to tell if the person is fond of you, or not, through "eye contact"? Any other nonverbal to tell the situation?
do you have the experience you take a shine to someone, having a liking for them immediately? what are the reasons that make you like them immediately? or are you loving/liking someone now? what are they like? why are you fond of them? do you agree with the result of the study? are men more visual than women?
when you meet someone who is absolutely your type, what would you do? would you try asking them out? if someone who you are not so attracted to asks you for a date, would you give them a chance? do you mind the gap, any gap you can think of that will draw you back, or what matters to you, when choosing your partner? is it ok to pursuit someone who is not a single person? are you a person who will be hell-bent on having your love despite any negative sings or disapproval of other people when head over heels?
let’s say, you liked someone, unfortunately they were not into you. Would you still try to be friend with them? do you think it’s possible you two can still be friends? why? would it be different if they have a boyfriend/girlfriend? what exactly would you do if you were in the case?
what do you think of romanticism mentioned in this speech? are you one of the heirs of it as the speaker says? do you agree romanticism has caused us a lot of troubles in a relationship, and it's the greatest enemy we face for love? why?
"when you embark on a journey of love, pessimism in fact is the most generous and kindly emotion that you could direct towards yourself and your partner."
why do you think that is?
there are somethings the speaker want us to know in order to be better lovers. the first thing we need to understand is let's stop treating our partners as if they were adults. let's start treating them like small children. does it make sense to you? why?
have you ever heard of Backfire Effect? It says facts don’t win arguments and we all know arguments are inevitable in a relationship, and would probably take its toll later. how do you think the awareness of Backfire Effect's presence and applying Alain de Botton's ideas can somewhat make our relationship better off?
personally i think the feeling of love is because "i meet you, i like you and i love you then, i love you for you are loving me". what do you think of it? is love a choice, coincidence or, fate?
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