5/02(Sat.)The gift & power of emotional courage (Julian.)

[Julian]

= Due to the unclear situation of COVID-19 and short notice, we will reopen the discussion on the last unfinished topic this coming weekend.

Dear Yoyoers,

It might not appeal so excitingly, but I found this TED talk quite profound and touching with the points the speaker had present. It's about how you see and deal with personal emotions in everyday lives from a fundamental perspective. Hope you will feel it the same way and enjoy it!

Suggested Questions for Session I :

1. Are you an emotional person? Do you think you have good control over emotions?
2. Why do we have feelings? Is it just a natural response to everything? What is the value of emotions?
3. Do you believe how we deal with our inner world drives everything? According to the speaker, every aspect of our lives is a projection of our inner self. Is there any personal example which can reflect or present an opposite result from it?
4. In most cases, we will try to encourage people to think positively. Is there any chance that it could be incorrect? Do you think being forced to thinking positive is wrong? (False positiveness)

Suggested Questions for Session II :

5. What is the difference between peoples in western and eastern society in dealing with emotional issues in your opinion/observation?
6. Some individuals don't feel like to encounter difficulties, potential disappointment, and challenges. The speaker describes it as "Having a dead man's goal." Is there anything wrong with having a dead man's goal?
7. According to the author, the ability to accurately describe/ differentiate the emotion is crucial. The more you can understand how you feel at the moment, the better control you can have toward your emotions. Have you ever try to clarify your feelings and go on to deal with the emotional issues?
8. When people get to embrace their genuine emotions, participation, creativity and new ideas thrive with it. How do you agree with it? Any examples to support or dis-support with it?
9. "Courage is not an absence of fears; courage is fear walking." What is your opinion?

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Agenda:
3:45 ~ 4:00pm Greetings & Free Talk / Ordering Beverage or Meal / Getting Newcomer’s Information
4:00 ~ 4:10pm Opening Remarks / Newcomer’s Self-introduction / Grouping
(Session I)
4:10 ~ 4:50pm Discussion Session (40 mins)
4:50 ~ 5:10pm Summarization (20 mins)
5:10 ~ 5:15pm Regrouping / Instruction Giving / Taking a 10 Minutes Break (Intermission)
(Session II)
5:15 ~ 5:55pm Discussion Session (40 mins)
6:00 ~ 6:20pm Summarization (20 mins)
6:20 ~ 6:30pm Concluding Remarks / Announcements ********************************************************************************************************************************************
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[Julian]

*Below are some key messages excerpted from the speech that I'd like to share with you: (Any distinctive thoughts that's totally fine and respected.)

-When we push aside normal emotions to embrace false positivity, we lose our capacity to develop skills to deal with the world as it is, not as we wish it to be.
-You don't want to have negative feelings..it's understandable, but.. you have dead people's goal. Only dead people never get unwanted or inconvenienced by their feelings. Only dead people never get stressed, never get broken hearts, never experience the disappointment that comes with failure.
-Discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life.
-So how do we begin to dismantle rigidity and embrace emotional agility? -Open to the heart that feels pain, grief, loss and regret.
-Research now shows that the radical acceptance of all of our emotions, even the messy, difficult one is the cornerstone to resilience, thriving and true authentic happiness.
-But emotional agility is more than just an acceptance of emotions, and we also know that the accuracy matters.
-The difference of "I'm stressed", and "stress and that knowing dread of "I'm in the wrong career.""
-When we label our emotions more accurately, we are more able to discern the precise cause of our feelings.
-The brain will then not only take steps, but the right steps.
-Our emotions contain flashing lights to things that we care about.
-But when our moment comes, to face our fragility, in that ultimate time, it will ask us "Are you agile?","Are you agile?". Let the moment be an unreserved "yes". A "yes" born of a lifelong correspondence with your own heart, and in seeing yourself. Because in seeing yourself, you will able to see others, too. The only sustainable way forward, in a fragile, beautiful world. Sawubona.

[Julian]

Please feel free to come or stay home..

[Kooper]

Hey Julian, you started our May meetings with a challenging one... it serves like a Monday morning meeting with boss to keep us on our toes.

It isn’t easy for me to decode the speech because the way the speaker delivered it isn’t straightforward - she made it more like reading the book "Chicken Soup for the Soul" than reporting scientific findings. I can also sense it from comments people left below: most of the time people just quoted one sentence that stroke them most but didn't mentioned the whole picture of her ideas.

Guess I need to replay it a couple of times more before being able to extract the structure of her theory.

[Kooper]

FYI. Below is what I could dissect the speaker's theory best.

1. Admit that we have both positive and negative emotions flowing in mind all the time: Accept that tough emotions are part of our contract with life instead of denying their existence. Be open to what we felt

2. Analyze internal emotions objectively: Separate ourselves from emotions. We aren’t the emotion but are just feeling the emotion.

3. Examine and label the emotion accurately: take a good look at what the emotion really is and find out exactly what caused it. For instance, men tend to mix sadness with rage; we may view and express it in the form of anger when we are sad

4. When we felt strong, tough emotion, it generally has something to do with our core values. Analyze what part of our core value system triggered this emotion and take correct steps to shape our life in that direction. That is, actions that will bring us toward our values instead of taking us away from them

[Julian]

Hey Julian, you started our May meetings with a challenging one... it serves like a Monday morning meeting with boss to keep us on our toes.

It isn’t easy for me to decode the speech because the way the speaker delivered it isn’t straightforward - she made it more like reading the book "Chicken Soup for the Soul" than reporting scientific findings. I can also sense it from comments people left below: most of the time people just quoted one sentence that stroke them most but didn't mentioned the whole picture of her ideas.

Guess I need to replay it a couple of times more before being able to extract the structure of her theory.

Good to have your voice, Kooper. Hahah.. you know I am not trying to make it hard to ppl who is coming for the gathering. Instead, I'm hoping to conduct the meeting in a relaxed manner where we all get to share our thoughts in a comfortable vibe. When I'm watching the video through YOYO web by mobile phone, the subtitle will automatically be switched to Chinese, which also gives an option of easy access to the points that the speaker is trying to convey, but I don't think you'll need this.

[Julian]

FYI. Below is what I could dissect the speaker's theory best.

1. Admit that we have both positive and negative emotions flowing in mind all the time: Accept that tough emotions are part of our contract with life instead of denying their existence. Be open to what we felt

2. Analyze internal emotions objectively: Separate ourselves from emotions. We aren’t the emotion but are just feeling the emotion.

3. Examine and label the emotion accurately: take a good look at what the emotion really is and find out exactly what caused it. For instance, men tend to mix sadness with rage; we may view and express it in the form of anger when we are sad

4. When we felt strong, tough emotion, it generally has something to do with our core values. Analyze what part of our core value system triggered this emotion and take correct steps to shape our life in that direction. That is, actions that will bring us toward our values instead of taking us away from them

Impressive job, Kooper. You are always a very organized man to me! There are several points that the speaker is trying to share, and the take-home message to me is to accept the negative emotions and take on them rather than to hide it or to justify everything in front of people. When one can truly embrace the good and the bad from lives, the courage and power will be on his/her side.

[Kooper]

Attendees(15): Julian, Ron (newcomer), Leon, Iris, Kooper, Steve, Ramesh, Jerry, Morris, Tashi, Gloria, Jeff, Michael, Rosie, David Jr.

[Julian]

Attendees(15): Julian, Ron (newcomer), Leon, Iris, Kooper, Steve, Ramesh, Jerry, Morris, Tashi, Gloria, Jeff, Michael, Rosie, David Jr.

Thanks for the updates, Kooper!