7/29(Sat.) Are you a perfectionist? (Host:Christina Wu)

[Christinawu]

Do you sometimes almost become a perfectionist in some way? Otherwise, your boss, your staffs, or your relatives are perfectionists? Let us check whether you have the signs of perfectionist or not and how to deal with it.

Section 1: Perfectionist Traits: 10 Signs of Perfectionism
https://www.verywellmind.com/signs-you- ... st-3145233

1. All-or-Nothing Thinking
2. Being Highly Critical
3. Feeling Pushed By Fear
4. Having Unrealistic Standards
5. Focusing Only on Results
6. Feeling Depressed by Unmet Goals
7. Fear of Failure
8. Procrastination
9. Defensiveness
10. Low Self-Esteem

Section two:Do not let perfection be the enemy of productivity
https://hbr.org/2020/03/dont-let-perfec ... oductivity

Perfectionist faces the following problems and the article provides some solutions.
1. You’re reluctant to designate decisions as “unimportant.”
Abstract for Solution: A perfectionist can learn to love giving up control over some choices if they pay attention to how good it feels to be relieved of the decision-making burden.

2. You feel morally obligated to overdeliver.
Abstract for Solution: Understand what it’s costing you to always aim for outperformance. If you assess that the costs are significant, try having a rule of thumb for when you’ll overdeliver.

3. You get excessively annoyed when you aren’t 100% consistent with good habits.
Abstract for Solution: Have a mechanism in place for checking that you’re not sticking to a habit just because you’re worshiping at the altar of self-discipline.


Discussion:
Section one:
1. There are 10 items to check whether you are perfectionist or not. How many items does it correspond to you? Are you a perfectionist or not? Why or why not?
2. Do you have friends, relatives, bosses or colleagues are perfectionists? How do they act? How do you respond to them if their requests are not easy to achieve or understand?
3. There is a movie called A man called otto(超難搞先生). The film is performed by Tom Hanks(湯姆漢克). It describes a man whose wife is passed away and he got early retirement. He is a not easygoing person, and have high standard, but he always wants to help others. Have you met someone like Tom Hanks in this movie? Do you think such perfectionist--Tom Hank here— is a good guy or bad guy or in gray area? How to communicate with such kind of perfectionist ?


Section two:
1. Do you think which is more important—perfection v.s. productivity. Could you tell us the reasons?
2. There are three kinds of mistakes that perfectionist often make as above mentioned. Have you ever made such mistakes or problems? Do your boss, colleagues or friends made such mistakes because of perfection? Is it common?
3. Could you provide any other solutions, if you face perfectionist at work?There are three solutions provided for perfectionists in this article. Do you think it will be useful? Why?
4. There is an old saying that “Practice makes perfect.” Are there any advantages to be perfect, after discussing so many disadvantages? Do you think practice is a good way to be perfect? Why? Is there any other way to be perfect at work?

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Agenda:
3:45 ~ 4:00pm Greetings & Free Talk / Ordering Beverage or Meal / Getting Newcomer’s Information
4:00 ~ 4:10pm Opening Remarks / Newcomer’s Self-introduction / Grouping
(Session I)
4:10 ~ 4:50pm Discussion Session (40 mins)
4:50 ~ 5:10pm Summarization (20 mins)
5:10 ~ 5:15pm Regrouping / Instruction Giving / Taking a 10 Minutes Break (Intermission)
(Session II)
5:15 ~ 5:55pm Discussion Session (40 mins)
6:00 ~ 6:20pm Summarization (20 mins)
6:20 ~ 6:30pm Concluding Remarks / Announcements

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[Laura]