10/28 (Sat.) How to Stop Talking About Yourself Too Much (Host: Leon)

[Leon]

Please read below articles before the meeting.

article1:
https://socialself.com/blog/talking-abo ... -too-much/


article2:
https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/ ... -and-signs



Session one :
Q1
Do you think a good conversation is a back-and-forth around 50-50 split between the parties?


Q2
What is your opinion about a good conversation/bad conversation?


Q3
Give an example, who do you usually have good conversations with? what characters does he/she have



Session Two :
Q4
During the conversation, Do you usually talk about yourself much or less?
In the article1, it mentions some ways to tell talking about myself too much.
Do you agree with them or not? and why?

Q5
In the article2, it meansion 4 signs of conversational narcissism.
Do you agree? Did you meet this kind people before? What is your feeling and how do you react?

Q6
In the article1, the author list some ways about without talking too much about yourself
Do you think it is useful? Which one is the most helpful for a good conversation?



Agenda:
3:45 ~ 4:00pm Greetings & Free Talk / Ordering Beverage or Meal / Getting Newcomer’s Information
4:00 ~ 4:10pm Opening Remarks / Newcomer’s Self-introduction / Grouping
(Session I)
4:10 ~ 4:50pm Discussion Session (40 mins)
4:50 ~ 5:10pm Summarization (20 mins)
5:10 ~ 5:15pm Regrouping / Instruction Giving / Taking a 10 Minutes Break (Intermission)
(Session II)
5:15 ~ 5:55pm Discussion Session (40 mins)
6:00 ~ 6:20pm Summarization (20 mins)
6:20 ~ 6:30pm Concluding Remarks / Announcements

Meeting Date: As shown on the Subject Line
Meeting Time: 4:00pm – 6:30pm
Meeting Venue: 丹堤咖啡 Dante Coffee (Minimum Order $100)
Address: 台北市濟南路三段25號[MAP]-捷運忠孝新生站3號出口步行3分鐘

Important Notes:
1. We advise participants to print out the discussion questions and bring them to the meeting for reference. As for the supporting articles, feel free to print them out, as well, according to your preference.
2. We suggest that participants read the articles and think about the questions in advance.
3. Newcomers should prepare a two-to-three minute self-introduction in English to deliver when called upon by the host before the start of the discussion. The host may also ask you to give brief feedback about the meeting at the conclusion of the meeting.
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[janet12tw]

Bring it to the top

[Iris Wu]

“Tooting your own horn” all the time can be annoying, but there is a kind of “talking about yourself” that might be well-received without ruffling any feathers.

I think appropriate “self-deprecating humor” is not offensive and is often quite appreciated. Many talk show hosts or stand-up comedians poke fun at themselves, their shortcomings, or their own personal situations. It is a crafty way to be modest or to acknowledge one’s flaws in a light-hearted manner, an art of staying humble while getting a chuckle.

However, we might still need to read between the lines. People are tricky and sophisticated. On the surface, it sounds like they are “self-deprecating”, but they are actually doing “self-promotion”. I am sure we’ve all had such an experience in our daily conversations.