YOYO English Club

Dear YoYo member ,

Good afternoon everyone,
This Saturday, let’s talk about an easy but meaningful topic — relationships.
I believe all of us have experienced falling in love, and maybe also being heartbroken.
Every relationship, no matter how it ends, teaches us more about ourselves and helps us grow.
So ,today let's share your opinion with us !

Section I – What qualities are most important in a long-term relationship?

When people fall in love, it feels intoxicating.We experience infatuation and passionate love.
Our brain releases chemicals like dopamine in the ventral tegmental area, giving us a feeling of euphoric anticipation.
Later, hormones like oxytocin and vasopressin support pair bonding, which helps couples build long-term attachment.

But love can also be confusing, almost like living in a haze. The prefrontal cortex—the part of the brain that makes rational decisions—often shuts down. That’s why people sometimes make irrational or even agonizing choices in relationships.

Besides, no matter whether you are married or single, loneliness can still be a part of life. That’s why developing the ability to be happy on your own is one of the most valuable skills in a relationship.

But then, how can we find the right person — our “Mr. or Miss Right”?
Here, I want to share something interesting from Warren Buffett. He once said:
“The most important financial decision you can make has nothing to do with the stock market. It is who you choose to marry.”

He also mentioned
“You want to associate with people who are the kind of person you’d like to be. And the most important person by far is your spouse. I can’t overemphasize how important that is.”

Interestingly, Buffett believes that the key to a lasting marriage is not about beauty, humor, or even character, but low expectations. He said:
“If you want a marriage to last, look for someone with low expectations.”

Interesting Video from Buffett
https://youtu.be/KJcWrL4fQnk?si=BaWITMLQkFVqrorp

Article about Buffett
https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/article ... 06622.html

Questions for discussion:

1.What qualities are most important in a long-term relationship?
Can you lower expectations for your partner?

2. Why do people sometimes lose themselves in a relationship?

3. Do you think unconditional love really exists, or is all love conditional in some way?

4.When you are attracted to someone, which do you notice first — their face or their body shape? Please share honestly.

5.Can you accept polyamory in a relationship?


Section II – Love in the digital age
In today’s world, many people try online dating or dating apps. Experiences are mixed.
Some people meet great partners and form lasting relationships.
Others only feel confusion and frustration.
So, just like traditional dating, meeting someone online has both benefits and drawbacks.

Here is the cute video would like to share !
https://youtu.be/f_OPjYQovAE?si=EEb3jwdppN8XHUp9

“on the way up” 指感情或人生中的上升、甜蜜、幸福的時刻。
“You held my hand” 代表對方在那些美好的時光裡陪伴、支持自己。
“I forgot about the drop” 指「我忘了還會有低潮 / 失落 / 下墜的時刻」。
1. Excessively 過度地、過分地
2. Infatuation迷戀、熱戀（通常是短暫且強烈的吸引）
3. Passionate love 熱情的愛、炙熱的愛
4. Intoxicating令人陶醉的、迷醉的（像酒精般令人上癮）
5. In the ventral tegmental area (VTA)在腹側被蓋區（大腦中與獎賞和動機有關的重要區域）
6. Neurotransmitter drop-amine神經傳導物質 多巴胺（dopamine，常與快樂、獎賞、愛情中的亢奮有關)
7. Euphoric anticipation 欣快的期待、快感的預期

Questions for discussion:

6. Do dating apps make finding true love easier or harder?

7.How has social media changed the way people fall in love?

8.Have you ever heard of a friend cheating in a relationship, or lying to their partner? Do you think people can truly change after cheating?

9.Is it possible to rebuild trust?Would you give a cheater a second chance?
Can trust ever be fully rebuilt once it’s broken?


Schedule:

Agenda:
3:45 ~ 4:00pm Greetings & Free Talk / Ordering Beverage or Meal / Getting Newcomer’s Information
4:00 ~ 4:10pm Opening Remarks / Newcomer’s Self-introduction / Grouping
(Session I)
4:10 ~ 4:50pm Discussion Session (40 mins)
4:50 ~ 5:10pm Summarization (20 mins)
5:10 ~ 5:20pm Regrouping / Instruction Giving / Short Break (Intermission)
(Session II)
5:15 ~ 5:55pm Discussion Session (40 mins)
6:00 ~ 6:20pm Summarization (20 mins)
6:20 ~ 6:30pm Concluding Remarks


Meeting Date: As shown on the Subject Line
Meeting Time: 4:00pm – 6:30pm
Meeting Venue: 丹堤咖啡 Dante Coffee (Minimum Order $85)
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1.What qualities are most important in a long-term relationship?
Can you lower expectations for your partner?


the best case scenario is both of you share the same feeling, "you had me at hello", then there will never be lower expectations for your partner such thing.

Even though you had me at hello, still need time to get to know each other.Maybe there is no single correct answer when it comes to relationships.