4/12 (Mon.) How to deal with a Dominator (host: Remous.)

[Remous]

Hello guys
This is remous who is the host in 4/12.even the topic coule be serious one,
but i think it it frequently happen with your partner, parents ,lover,coworker and manager ,etc,
someone like to control weakness person,for example: my female friends like the lover treat her
better and follow any words she say.In my opinion,it would lot of case in our dairly life.
please provide some case if you experience.

Reference
http://www.ehow.com/how_2106098_deal-manipulator.html
http://www.rickross.com/reference/brain ... ing11.html
http://www.cassiopaea.com/cassiopaea/em ... lation.htm
http://www.google.com.tw/dictionary?aq= ... e&hl=zh-TW
http://www.ehow.com/how_4560192_stay-ar ... tions.html

Questions
1. How to face and deal with problems when someone wants to dominate you?
2. What is most common situation where you are dominated by someone in your life?
3. Who was born a dominator?
4. What are the places where there is high rate of people who tend to be easily dominated?
5. When someone tries to dominate you, how do you change the situation?
6. Why domination happens in our life?

Action
Part1
Discuss the questions and each group will make a summary.

Part 2
1. Prepare for a skit on the discussed topic.
2. Every group has 10 minutes to perform with common seen or heard situation about domination.
Players: dominator, victims and director (have fun on the performence )

Vocabulary
dominate: (verb) to control something or someone, often in a negative way, because you have more power or influence [Macmillan Dictionary] 支配；控制
dominant： a dominant person or animal is stronger than others in a group and wants to control them [Macmillan Dictionary] 霸道的 (強勢的)
manipulator:someone who is skilful at getting what they want by cleverly controlling or deceiving other people


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8:25 ~ 9:05pm discussion session (40 mins)
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[technobabel]

How to deal with a dominator?
Besides testing the practicality of speak softly and carry a big stick.
You can also speak loudly to make others believe that your stick aren't too small.
Of couse that isn't a long term solution.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Big_Stick_ideology

If you expect to find youself at the short end of the stick indefinitely.
You should get to know the theory beyond "Asymmetrical warfare"

http://www.yourdictionary.com/idioms/sh ... -stick-the
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asymmetric_warfare

[Remous]

Today i watch the movie really touching that even now i can not control mind all night.
the story talk about some bad parents want to control their child for social welfare.thus,
they cheat and hit her ,or separate her with the society.and then the school get quit for her
when her father raped,and have the baby.

however ,it is really unfair things around our life,even their are our parent.
how to deal with manipulator that is a Required Course in our life.

[wenhan1122]

4. What are the places where there is high rate of people who tend to be easily dominated?

I can think of school, army and highly pressured work place as the circumstances for people to be easily dominated. Actually the atmosphere itself in that circumstance may make you automatically follow the disciplines for surviving

[toshi]

今晚演出的戲碼, 除了真的有日本朋友來我家住之外, 其他全屬虛構！

[Remous]

今晚演出的戲碼, 除了真的有日本朋友來我家住之外, 其他全屬虛構！

Dear Toshi
it is nice experience that foreigh friend comming and your parents (TOSHIBA and TOSHIMA) just concerned you .in my opinion ,your parents really want to take brain-washing to you when they are worrying on the time.

Remous

[toshi]

今晚演出的戲碼, 除了真的有日本朋友來我家住之外, 其他全屬虛構！

Dear Toshi
it is nice experience that foreigh friend comming and your parents (TOSHIBA and TOSHIMA) just concerned you .in my opinion ,your parents really want to take brain-washing to you when they are worrying on the time.

Remous

Dear Remous,

Well, you know what, usually I am the one who always brainwash people! Surely including my parents!

Toshi

[Remous]

Session2 :Manipulator Performance

Group 1 Topic ParentsToshi
TOSHIBA and TOSHIMA are worrying about Toshi’s interpersonal rationship,and the sensitive parents pay a lot attention even just the general friend come to his home, and start the story…
In my case ,I would say I am not home boy when my parents worry ,if needed I will try to brain-washing them.

Group 2 Topic Friends
Director (Charie),
Boss (Michael) Friends(Mountain, Maggie)
Victim(Antonio)
The story talk about the insurance seller forced boss argument ,and then he try to sell to his friends unsuitable product. Finally ,his friends honest to refuse him. it is quite common example in our society and how to maintain the relationship in the right place where is our purpose in life.

Group 3 Topic Lovers
Director (Wen-han),
Two couples (Chantal & Yihao,Jackson &Iris)
Victim(Yihao,Iris)
All of them want be treated best for their lover. For instance, travel at Dubai and buy luxurious cloths. You can find out how long-distance when they aggress with you. Even the boundary clear ,but make the plan to follow their request is much better ,if the right person nearby you.

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Hello yoyos,
Thanks to bring the professional performances.
I never laugh like a drain for long time, I really appreciate to everyone.thx
Today we have participants below,
Attendance Figures:16
Host: Remous
Attendee: Mountain, Antonio, Debby, Michael , Christine Wang ,Yihao, Iris, Jackson, Wenhan,Charie,Sean, Timothy,Maggie,Toshi,Chantal.

[wenhan1122]

Pictures taken in the gathering

[Remous]

In the last picture
it is obvious that how serious and domineering boss when three professional person take their hands on chest behind him.
Michael,you was nature as a boss.and it is harder to against with you even Antonio.

[Wayne]

Words and Expressions 0412 2010

弱肉強食
1. The weak will stand as an easy prey of the strong.
2. jungle justice; the law of the jungle
3. The big fish eat up the small ones.