7/4 (Tue.) The benefits of not being a jerk to yourself (Host: Janet)

[janet12tw]

Dear Yoyo members,

I found a very popular & fun Ted Talk about self-improvement in 2022 in the link as below.

The speaker used to be an ABC News anchor. After having a panic attack on air, he decided to change his direction in life.
He became a dedicated meditator & wrote a book & built an organization called 10% happier.

In this speech, he shared his experiences about how to become a kinder person & quiet his inner critic through meditation.
Session One:

Questions:
1. What is loving-kindness meditation and how can you practice it?

2. It is said "People who have greater levels of self-compassion tend to be more motivated, less lazy, and more successful over time. But just as important, they like themselves even when they fall short."
How can you cultivate self-compassion?

3. How compassion could save your strained relationships?
Instead of canceling someone who we love, how can we be the people who plant the seeds for reconciliation first & see how it goes?

Session Two:

Questions:
1. The speaker mentioned "We humans have two choices or two spirals that are available to us.
One is called the toilet vortex (as the picture in the link as below): You're picking on yourself because you don't like the way you look in the mirror. You're unhappy with your level of productivity or you have failed to achieve ketosis, whatever. And then you take that out on other people and then you are feeling more miserable, and then down you go.

https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/ ... drive_link

The other one is called the upward spiral. This one was drawn by a professional (as the picture in the link as below): As your inner weather gets balmier, because you've learned how to high-five your demons, that shows up in your relationships with other people. And because relationships are probably the most important variable when it comes to human flourishing, your inner weather improves even further and up you go."

https://drive.google.com/file/d/10oRu3A ... drive_link

Do you agree with it? Why or why not?

2.I found there is also an APP called "Ten Percent Happier Meditation"
You could download it from the links as below.
If you like, you could download it & try it out & let us know if you think it is helpful.

1. On the App Store - Apple: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/ten-perce ... d992210239
2. APPs on Google Play: https://play.google.com/store/apps/deta ... r&hl=en_US

3.Good listening is one of the most important things we can do to improve our relationships
What can we do to become better listeners?

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Agenda:
6:45 ~ 7:00pm Greetings & Free Talk / Ordering Beverage or Meal / Getting Newcomer’s Information
7:00 ~ 7:10pm Opening Remarks / Newcomer’s Self-introduction / Grouping
(Session I)
7:10 ~ 7:45pm Discussion Session (35 mins)
7:45 ~ 8:00pm Summarization (15 mins)
8:00 ~ 8:05pm Regrouping / Instruction Giving / Taking a 5 Minutes Break (Intermission)
(Session II)
8:05 ~ 8:40pm Discussion Session (35 mins)
8:40 ~ 8:55pm Summarization (15 mins)
8:55 ~ 9:00pm Concluding Remarks / Announcements

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[janet12tw]

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